“If we want happiness with loved ones, and peace, and quiet conscience, we need to learn the little lessons, the small services, the continuing kindnesses, the habitual acts of honesty, the constancy of cleanliness –not just one big washing.” ~Richard L. Evans ( ‘Constancy of cleanliness’ perhaps means in mind, speech, manners, grooming. – kdm)
Elder Evans (deceased member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, 1906-1971), speaks here of quiet acts of humble progress. To be admired are those who can make a complete turnaround and keep that path of refinement. For most of us it happens gradually as we learn / are taught by those we respect and love (or perhaps from others when they shake us loose from a habit). A better approach… we can become open to and looking for refined qualities in others which we can adopt as our own. For me, the last five years have brought a blessing of perspective for others and in our marriage unequalled in the previous 35+ years. Elder Evans ‘higher level of happiness with loved ones’ evolves with patience and attention over time. We shouldn’t wait until we are older, as in our 60’s+ (like me), to make changes that improve relationships, especially with loved ones… (a waste of fun because it never happened!).
One bonding thought that works in our marriage. When coming in from work or just away for part of the day, my wife often asks me, “so how are you doing?” or “How was your day?” My response with different levels of sincerity, depending upon the day’s happenings, “Better now!”… brings a chuckle and always a positive mood. (It’s understood correctly as ‘I’m glad to be with you!’) kdm
